Sex keeps couples happy
If you are a couple and want to be happy, indulging in sex at least once a week is enough. However, more the merrier.
Dr Rajiv Anand, marriage counsellor, sex consultant and senior psychiatrist says, ‘In certain sections of the society , frequency of having sex is decreasing, which is an alarming trend. Sex should not be related only with penetrative satisfaction, but also be looked at as a tool to create stronger bonds and sustaining the relationship.’
Psychiatrist and counsellor Dr Pavan Sonar adds, ‘It is a `must’ for couples to have sex at least once a week and then some more.However, if both the partners are working and genuinely don’t have the time, or mature couples are content in a relationship, then they can mutually decide how often they want to roll in the hay! But for those who have enough time, there should be no excuse! ‘
Lack of interest or showing continuous disinterest in having sex with your partner can affect the relationship. Warns Dr. Anand, ‘Denying your partner action between the sheets will take a toll on the marriage. This might affect their psychology and can make them irritable, cranky, angry, hyper, intolerant, stressed and even depressed. A caring husband or wife has to find time for regular sexual expression of his/her feelings, or else be ready for distances, detachment, differences, and in worst cases, even divorce.’
Raveena (name changed), who has been married for the past five years, says, ‘Last year, there was a bit of stress in our relationship due to financial matters. My husband and I would constantly bicker and there were times when I would not entertain his advances in the bedroom. But I realised it was not solving any purpose. So, we consulted a sexologist who advised us on how to up the frequency and also asked us to keep a diary of sexual activity for two weeks. By the end of the exercise, we realised it helped us solve our differences.’
Sex helps to connect emotionally and keep the spark alive in the relationship. Says Shika (name changed), ‘While making love, brain releases oxytocin, also known as the cuddle hormone, which helps you and your partner bond better. I always feels appreciated after a good time in bed with my husband. Just having a good romp in the bed amidst the crazy routine makes us feel close.’
Dr Anand adds, ‘Most people who want to keep love alive and kicking in their life express their need to connect through sexual behaviour. It definitely increases intimacy and makes one feel accepted and appreciated.’
